Excerpt from blog post:
Many people will simply have a vague, undefined, general feeling that “therapy just didn’t work for them”, or that “talking didn’t fix them.” They won’t have concrete examples, or tangible stories to point to in order to realize whether their therapy was successful or not.
When thinking about therapy and finding the best therapist for you, personality matters. If you don’t like your therapist as a person, or you get a feeling they don’t quite “get you,” I’d be surprised if you end up having a successful therapy experience. So much of the work depends on the relationship between the therapist and patient. If there is a conflict of personality then the work can be difficult for both patient and therapist.